Muted Mutiny

So my daughter watches pretty much everything that Shonda Rhymes puts on television.  She watches a show called Grey's Anatomy, she says for the cute doctor.  Nonetheless, I decided to pull an episode up on on demand.....it was interesting.

I watched it on mute.  I thought that the husband and wife on the show were arguing about perhaps a procedure that had gone wrong in the hospital, or one of them had done something wrong and they were arguing about it.  I could not tell who had done the wrong thing in the hospital but during their fight, it seemed as though the husband was the one in the wrong.  It also seemed like the wife dropped an ultimatum at the end, like she was going to quit the hospital or something. 

I went back and watched the episode.  The couple was arguing, but not for the reason I thought.  They had differing believes on raising children.  One was a believer in God and the other was not.  The child that they were trying to save in the hospital needed an ear transplant that the parents did not want to approve the transplant for.  This lead to an argument about how to raise a child between the two doctors.  The female doctor did drop a bomb....though not that she was quitting or leaving the hospital, but that she was pregnant....DUH DUNH DUUUUUHHHHHH!!!

The communication needed the sound so that I could understand the reasons behind the frustration.  Without that background knowledge, I was making unfair assumptions and judgements for no reason, or at least the wrong reasons.  We do this for the wrong reasons, judge people, effective listening helps us to hear the whole unbiased argument and assess correctly.